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#1 Posted : Monday, 26 October 2009 1:35:51 PM(UTC)

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It's really important to be people smart, rather than only academic smart. People smart would make your life much more easier when step into adulthood.

People are born in people smart. However, training is effective way to make your children People Smart. Train your children at their early age. A couple of points from PeopleSmart (Mel Silberman, 2000)-

~ understanding people: when they are confused by people's attitudes and behavior, high PQ people: a) listen and observe by putting the other person in the spotlight, showing interest and reading body language. b) clarify meaning by asking open-ended questions, paraphrasing and responding to feeling. c) interpret behavior by evaluating goals, assessing personal style and recognizing differences.
~ expressing yourself clearly: when they want to be understood, high PQ people a) get the message across by thinking before they talk, orienting and summarizing with the listener and painting with words. b) talk straight by standing behind what they say, making the listener comfortable and being consistent. c) include the listener by speaking the listener's language, letting the other person speak and confirming understanding.
~ asserting your needs: when they need to set limits or advocate for themselves, high PQ people a) are decisive by separating needs from wishes, taking a stand and communicating their position. b) remain calm and confident by staying on track, giving reasons nondefensively and watching their body language. c) are persistent by reminding, requesting and encouraging.
~ exchanging feedback: when they want the perspectives of others or believe others can benefit from hearing theirs, high PQ people a) invite others to give them feedback by conveying receptiveness, making people comfortable and broadening the circle. b) get invited to give feedback to others by asking for permission, sharing rather than insisting, timing their input and checking perceptions. c) are informative by referring to concrete behaviors, limiting the amount of feedback and offering suggestions for improvement.
~ Influencing others: when they want to have an impact on others or encourage them to change, high PQ people a) connect with them by offering their expertise, identifying with others, admiring others and getting to know others. b) assess needs by observing behavior, asking skillful questions and obtaining reactions. c) make a persuasive presentation by reducing resistance and making their message appealing.
~ resolving conflict: when they find themselves at odds with others, high PQ people: a) create a climate of mutual interest by surfacing the conflict, taking a positive approach and fostering partnership. b) put the real issues on the table by focusing on interests, not positions, setting their own targets and studying the other party's situation. b)negotiate win/win solutions by generating mutual gain options, developing a joint plan and using contingency strategies.
~ being a team player: when they need to work in a groups, high PQ people: a) join with others by observing what's going on in the group, making contributions where needed and building a climate of dialogue. b) facilitate teamwork by promoting a common vision, encouraging participation and stimulating creative problem solving. c) build consensus by narrowing down ideas, polling the group and checking for commitment.
~ shifting gears: when they find themselves deadlocked in a relationship, high PQ people: a) accept the challenge by facing reality, taking responsibility and applying high standards. b) figure out what's stuck by evaluating emotional closeness, looking for style differences and detecting cycles of behavior. c) act in novel ways by testing the waters, assessing the benefits and making a commitment.
#2 Posted : Thursday, 5 August 2021 5:02:20 PM(UTC)

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This idea of making kids smart is really interesting to me. Because as with most etymologies, the idea of smart can be so multifaceted and multidimensional.
In Born a Crime, Noah talks about the idea of street sart- being linguistically diverse and also learning to survive. And I think this is an important sense of learning that needs to be added in all curriculums. The idea of learning to respect and draw boundaries where such respect is not gathered. I think this would lead to a crop of young ones who will not take the status quo without a question
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