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emmab  
#1 Posted : Tuesday, 11 July 2017 4:08:21 PM(UTC)
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It is common problem to have conflict with your boss at any job at some point for different reasons. Sometime, you may just don't like your boss, or you are just a different type of person. In particular when you are overly stressed with projects and deadlines, even the best working relationships can be tested. So what and how to deal with ongoing conflict with your boss without jeopardizing your working relationship or your job?

Even completely different types of people doesn't mean you can't have a good working relationship or be happy in your job. Our differences can sometimes help us learn from each other. It’s really important to take responsibility for our own in a conflict with a supervisor, don’t fret that you have a less than idyllic relationship. Instead, focus your energy on finding ways to make it better.

Try to understand what makes your boss tick. For good or bad, we all have a unique working style complete with hot buttons and things that make us happy. Mending a relationship with your boss can be as simple as taking the time to observe and figure out what makes her happy professionally, and what sets her off. Being tuned in and insightful about your boss’s working style can help you avoid some of the behaviors that make your boss grumpy, and in turn helps strengthen the relationship.

Do we go to HR for a resolution?
Going to HR is not the best, first step. Unless there are issues of bullying, discrimination or other situations that violate office policy, going to HR should be more like your last step. In any relationship, it’s crucial to have solid communication and work through conflict and disagreements together. If your first attempt at solving problems with your boss is going behind his back, you have a good chance of putting him on the defensive and may end up creating more conflict. Instead, request a private meeting to discuss some issues that are on your mind. Approach the conversation in a way that is diplomatic, non-aggressive and non-accusatory. Make sure you position the conversation as being about you – take fair responsibility for the challenges in your relationship and seek your boss’s opinion and ideas for how to repair it. Remember that your boss is the boss; remain respectful throughout the process of working through issues together.

Do we talk to others about the your conflict with your boss?
It would only make things worse. This will not help you to improve the relationship and you could be getting back fire or hurting your reputation. The worse thing is someone could tell your boss what you've been saying (this is exactly what I have encountered). Talk to a confidant outside of the workplace may help you to vent. I would suggest to focus your energy on improving the situation instead of obsessing about how bad things are.

Does your boss a person who likes a conflict?
I don't think that your boss like conflict either. Unless he is truly evil or thrives on negative energy, it’s more than likely your boss is also troubled by the conflict and frustration that exists between the two of you. Showing him you can be accountable, mature, and responsible for your own actions will go a long way, and your boss will not only admire what you are saying and how you say it, but he will also feel relief that you are working together in a more positive way.

Talk to your boss first!
You need to try to resolve the issues between your two: explain that your frustration is starting to seep into your work life and your conflicts are starting to affect your work and your attitude. Make it clear that you want to find a way to have better communication and a more cohesive relationship. Let your boss know that you understand he or she has your best interests at heart and that you want to find common ground that will make things better for you both.

What to do if you can't resolve the conflict with your boss?
I have trouble to resolve issues with my boss. He is not evil, but a such non-reliable personal. He is a good talker, and can make up stories to against you. Remember that most managers on higher management are busy, and are not "detectives". They will not spend time on investigation, rather than listen the talks.

If your attempts fail, consider a third party. If after working to improve the relationship, you discover your boss is not open to finding a way to mend fences, then it’s time to assess your options and next steps. One option is to talk to HR about the situation. Present the conflict in a calm and concise way, and explain the steps you took to improve the relationship. Ask your HR representative if he can get involved; sometimes a third party’s perspective and influence can be just what’s needed.

When I had issues with my boss, I was too emotional, and too angry that resulted in a very embarrassing situations, which didn't do any good for me.

The conflict can be resolved
While conflict with a supervisor is unpleasant, it is not unusual. By taking the time to nurture and repair the relationship while working to understand what makes your boss tick, you can improve and enhance your quality of life in the workplace.
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